The birth of my son has been one of the most incredible experiences of my life! (Watch Video). The day my son was born, a different version of myself unlocked! (Kind of like in video games!) I became more aware of my potential, and I became uncomfortable with satisfying the norms I previously accommodated! Some would say I became Superhuman!
The experience has it’s incredible and low moments. But I honestly wish I was aware of some critical facts before! Here are somethings I wished I knew about parenting:
1. I WOULD LOVE ANOTHER HUMAN THIS MUCH AND PROTECT THEM WITH MY LIFE
The love I feel for my son cannot be described with words! I never expected to love anyone besides my hubby this much! Writing this and trying to explain to you how much I love him; I am completely lost for the right words!
Through my journey as a mum, what I find completely epic is, if I love him this much, I wonder how BIG God’s love for him is!
2. I WON’T TRUST EVERYONE TO TAKE CARE OF HIM
Prior to having my son, I 100% thought I would leave him with my parents while I travelled the world! Haha! That idea flew out of the window when I saw his little face! I wanted to protect him, care for him, give him everything I had! There was no way I was gonna let him out of my sight!
My best friend got married and I was unable to go, one of the reasons was because I had a little anxiety about leaving my son in the care of others. I was ashamed to admit that I struggled with this, but admitting it and working with God, my hubby and my therapist helped me get through this!
Do you feel anxiety about leaving your kids with strangers? You are not alone. With time, things will get better momma.
3. KIDS ARE EXPENSIVE
My son has not been in daycare for even 6 months and the total bill we have racked up is $5,000! And that’s just daycare fees! Kids grow out of clothes fast, you have to try different foods to figure out what they like, and let’s not forget those wonderful toys we would like to get them to help with their developmental goals!
This shouldn’t put you off having babies, but it is something to consider and be realistic about.
4. I’D STILL HAVE A LIFE
The common myth I heard about having kids was that I would not have a life anymore. To an extent, that’s true, however I find I am still able to find time to do things I love and even discover new hobbies because I was able to ask God to give me the courage to say no to all the things that didn’t matter.
I realized saying ‘no’ or ‘not yet’ to certain opportunities was the only way I wouldn’t get lost in the web of being a mum.
5. PRAYING WOULD BE MY NEW HOBBY
I used to worry a lot about the future- Will my son be happy? Will he be bullied? Will he be a man after God’s heart? Will he marry a Jezebel? LOL!!
I realized worrying was taking up a lot of my time. Therapy taught me to set aside time to worry- the trick is if you still remember that issue during your ‘worry time’ then you can get to the root cause of things! However, I decided to throw my Holy Spirit twist to it! Every time I worried about something concerning my son, I documented it in my son’s prayer journal and the rule is, I wasn’t allowed to think about it after journaling the prayer because that would mean I don’t trust God to handle the situation.
What are you worried about? Take it God in prayer! Being a mum, I’ve learned to battle on my knees! We wrestle not against flesh and blood but principalities and powers! (Ephesians 6:12)
What are some of the things you wish you knew about parenting? Share your thoughts below!
Thanks for reading!
God Bless you Tremendously
Akhere
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