Attending so many weddings and watching so many movies has desensitized me to this verse

‘What God has joined together, let no man separate’

Until recently, when I read it again and I gained a different perspective

“God has put them together to be husband and wife. So, nobody should make them separate.”

Mark 10:9 (EASY)

All of a sudden, I began to dissect the verse!

Nobody= Physical or Spiritual influences

So, what might this include?

• Distractions

1. 1. Social media
   2. Technology
   3. Work
   4. Kids
   5. Parents
   6. In-laws
   7. Friends
   8. Finances
   9. Hobbies
   10. Whatever you are believing God for

And before you go and unfriend your friend of 10 years because of the above list, please note that all of the above distractions are beautiful, and are in no way harmful. However, if your in-laws in trespassing on your boundaries or your husband feels neglected because of the children that’s when you need to pause and reflect on what ‘little foxes’ are trying to “Pour sand sand in your garri”.

“Catch all the foxes, those little foxes, before they ruin the vineyard of love, for the grapevines are blossoming!”

Solomon 2:15

• A Way Forward

Yes, life is busy and after a long day at work and putting your little one(s) to bed, you need time for yourself (Comment below if you can relate).

The way forward is to realize a balance with all your competing priorities and ask the Holy Spirit for help

“If you need wisdom, ask God”

James 1:5

The way this looks like for me is that certain months, I may not focus on some goals. For instance I may put my favourite hobby in the backburner for a period, to focus on planning my husband’s birthday!

The trick is realizing that you can’t be everything to everyone at the same time and that’s okay!

To prioritize your marriage going forward, my challenge to you is:

• • Set a monthly date night with hubby/wifey where you spend time together as you did before you got married.
  • Set a day monthly to talk about what works well for both of you, what doesn’t and how you can both improve.

Although distractions may come, you will surf the wave triumphantly!

Do you have any other tips to help you with dealing with distractions? Share them below!

God Bless you Tremendously

Akhere

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